I am now the father of a teenager.  My eldest child just turned 13 a few weeks ago. We even had “The” talk when he was 12 to prepare us for this moment.  Now begins the bodily changes and the emotional and attitudinal changes.  There is more work ahead but it’s worth it. We have a great son.


Before I show you an amazing Bible verse on teens from one of the wisest men, here is my less spiritual but fun quotes on teenagers.


“Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth.” 

Erma Bombeck


“As a teenager you are at the last stage in your life when you will be happy to hear that the phone is for you.” 

Fran Lebowitz


Little children, headache; big children, heartache.  ~Italian Proverb

Too many of today’s children have straight teeth and crooked morals.  ~Unknown high school principal

Teenagers complain there’s nothing to do, then stay out all night doing it.  ~Bob Phillips


What you don’t correct in your own life , will come to fruition in your children’s  Jacob Aranza


You can tell a child is growing up when he stops asking where he came from and starts refusing to tell where he is going.  ~Author Unknown


Small children disturb your sleep, big children your life.  ~Yiddish Proverb


Those are the fun and not spiritual quotes.

I ran across a verse about teens in the Bible that I have never seen; and maybe that is because I have never had a teen till a few weeks ago.


Here is what Solomon says in Proverbs.

He is speaking about some amazing things and then the brakes are slammed on, the record is scratched and the words about teens comes blaring out and joins a very exclusive list.



Proverbs 30:19


18 Three things amaze me,

no, four things I’ll never understand––

19 how an eagle flies so high in the sky,

how a snake glides over a rock,

how a ship navigates the ocean,

why adolescents act the way they do

(Proverbs 30:18-19 Message)



This is fantastic!

The writer of Proverbs is amazed at 3 things (a snake, a ship and an eagle).  And while musing he catches himself and says “no, there are 4!”.

He sounds  like a parent of a teen going through it with his highschooler and says “I’m amazed at a 4th thing…my teen.”  My adolescent teen is just as amazing as these other things.


The word “amazed” has a paradox of meanings and feelings to it.  It means extraordinary and difficult. It means miraculous and monstrous. All of this at the same time.

I think the paradox is for the last amazing thing not the first 3….the adolescent.



Solomon is thinking about eagles, snakes and a ship and ends up with a finale of a  teenager….truly one of the great wonders of the world; both extraordinary and difficult.  




So Solomon, in one other of his bible books, gives an answer to this extraordinary/difficult time of the teenage life. This was his answer….


‘Honor and enjoy your Creator while you’re still young,

Before the years take their toll and your vigor wanes’

(Ecclesiastes 12:1 Message)


Spurgeon said it like this about youth: “To be a believer early in life is to be saved a 1,000 regrets “



So my goal for my teenager those amazing years that my son is with me…

Finding practical ways for God to be enjoyed and honored by my teenager.


This is my job as a parent.

I don’t leave the training to the schools and universities.

If I don’t help him with the battles of “small compromises” then the words of Bill Gothard ring in my ear:


“One generations small compromises become the next generation’s lifestyles”. 



So here’s my declaration to you today…..


Here are David’s words as paraphrased by Eugene Peterson from The Message


I’m doing the very best I can,

and I’m doing it at home, where it counts

(Psalms 101:2)

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